MSV’s Definition of Male Sexual Violence against Women: Implications for Engaging Men on Campus

Saturday, April 6th, 2019

The #MeToo movement and related progress have sparked a backlash from those invested in maintaining patriarchal structures. Some men feel victimized by the movement and the possibility of accountability.  Other men are genuinely confused. Within this context, Men Stopping Violence offers practitioners a definition of male sexual violence against women which invites men into the conversation and into the movement. MSV’s definition of male sexual violence against women offers a critical addition to the field as it invites both men and communities to interrogate the socialization and training which all men receive concerning male entitlement to women’s bodies.

This workshop reviews and critiques current definitions of sexual violence. The workshop then presents Men Stopping Violence’s definition of male sexual violence against women and how that definition is applied directly in Men Stopping Violence’s batterer intervention program, in the community at large, and on campuses.

Join Men Stopping Violence Saturday, April 6th from 4pm – 5:15pm at Emory Univeristy’s RespectCon.

To register for the conference, click here.

Judge Kavanaugh’s Nomination Raises Difficult Truths about How We Socialize Men and Boys

Greg Loughlin

Men Stopping Violence

Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh’s alleged behavior – and the behavior of Donald Trump, Bill Clinton, Bill Cosby and so many men with power – holds a disturbing mirror up to our society and how we socialize men and boys. Specifically, too many boys are prepared and trained to expect access to women and girls’ bodies at will, and to use tactics to get their way. And too many men with privilege are allowed to violate women because they have that privilege.

As Dr. Ford and Judge Kavanaugh decide whether to testify next week, the Senate and the public prepare to evaluate how loyal Kavanaugh has been to that pervasive script of male entitlement. In doing so, let’s keep the following principles Men Stopping Violence has learned over 35 years of working with men:

• Accountability is necessary for justice for survivors. It is an essential part of the community saying, “We believe you; this should not have happened, and we want to do what we can to repair the damage and make sure this doesn’t happen to anyone else in the future.” As a community, we owe it to survivors to hold perpetrators accountable;

• Accountability for men who violate women leads to more safety for women and girls. If men who abuse women know they can get away with it, they probably will;

• It is also critically important to understand that accountability is in men’s interests if we want to have meaningful and respectful relationships with women. In the long term, it is in men’s interests to be accountable for our actions and choices; and,

• Community accountability is critical to ending male violence against women and girls. We need to demand accountability for systems and institutions—including our representatives in the US House and Senate—when they obfuscate and delay to maintain a status quo that supports male sexual violence.

Despite his well-documented violation and disrespect of women, Donald Trump was elected president. As facts emerge about Brett Kavanaugh, we may well have the opportunity to make a different choice and to send a different message to women, girls, boys and men. Are we willing to make a different choice?

We are the Work: The Making of Men Stopping Violence

We are the Work: The Making of Men Stopping Violence


We are the Work BookA new book written by Men Stopping Violence co-founder Dick Bathrick chronicles MSV’s 30 years of experience working with men to end male violence against women.

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Training for Therapists: Thorny Questions Working with Men Who Abuse Their Intimate Partners

Do I refer them to a batter intervention program? If so, why and when?  If not, why?

Thorny Questions Agenda

In this 8-hour workshop, Men Stopping Violence will address these, and other vexing questions. We will also present our philosophical framework that explores who batters and why, as well as the prevalence and scope of male violence against women in our communities. Next, we will take an in-depth look at tactics of abuse and how to identify them in clients and then discuss the value that referral to intervention services brings to private counselling practices. We’ll end day one by observing our 2-hour batterer intervention class where training participants will see first-hand the depth of work that happens in a batterer intervention class. Participants will then join the Men Stopping Violence training team to process the class the following morning.

This training has been approved for 8 LMFT, LCSW, and LPC CEU hours

Training Objectives

Goal: To deepen therapists understanding of male violence against women and to better utilize intervention services in their community.

By the end of the training participants will be able to:

  • Summarize the components of the Men Stopping Violence Community Accountability Model.
  • Summarize the scope of tactics used by abusers to control an intimate partner
  • Describe when to refer clients to Batterer Intervention Programs
  • List two benefits to each the client and the therapist of referring men to batterer intervention programs

Dates

 

Training Times

Day One               12:30pm – 8:30pm

Day Two               9:00am – 11:00am

Training Cost

$150

Presenters

Ulester V. Douglas, MSW

Ulester Douglas is the Executive Director of Men Stopping Violence. Ulester has provided consultation, training and keynote presentations in 40 states, Europe and the Caribbean to community-based organizations, universities, corporations and government agencies. He currently serves on the board of the National Resource Center to end Domestic Violence. In addition to his work in the movement to end violence against women, Ulester has twenty-seven years of clinical experience working with individuals, couples, families and groups. He is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and a National Institute of Mental Health fellow, with specialized training in working with families impacted by incest.

Richard Bathrick, LMFT

Bathrick co-founded Men Stopping Violence in 1982 and he brings more than three decades of experience in progressive social change to the work of ending violence against women. As part of MSV’s national training team, he has co-led trainings for a variety of organizations, including international training initiatives for government officials, social workers, and women’s advocates in Canada, the United Kingdom, and Taiwan. He is the author or co-author of a number of articles including, “Deconstructing Male Violence Against Women” and “How Do You Know Your Batterer Program Works?” He is also the author of We Are The Work: The Making of Men Stopping Violence. In his private practice, Bathrick works with groups and sees individuals, couples, and families.

Men At Work Training – October 2017

October 18th, 2017 – October 20th, 2017
Men At Work: Building Safe Communities is an innovative and multi-disciplinary curriculum that: explores male violence against women in an accessible manner, challenges men to take responsibility for their actions, and provides the educational experience necessary to become allies in ending violence against women. In this three-day training, MSV will provide participants with the knowledge and tools needed to implement Men At Work. Join us in Atlanta for three days of transformation!

What You Will Receive

* Men At Work Instructors’ Manual
* Men At Work Students’ Manual
* Men At Work Facilitation Training
* Men At Work Curriculum Implementation Training

This training has been approved by the Georgia Commission on Family Violence for 20 FVIP hours.

Recommended Hotel

For your convenience, in terms of price and transportation, Men Stopping Violence recommends the Holiday Inn Express Hotel & Suites Atlanta-Emory University for your stay.

Training Cost
$495: Includes three-day training, a students’ manual, and an instructors’ manual. An $800 value!

Registration
Please contact Lee Giordano at 404.270.9894.

Men Stopping Violence 35th Anniversary Celebration

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When: 7:00 PM on Friday, September 22, 2017
Where: The Trolley Barn, 963 Edgewood Avenue, Atlanta, 30307
What to Expect: Heavy hors d’oeuvres, wine, music, short speeches, a silent auction, camaraderie

 




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Come Celebrate With Us!

When Men Stopping Violence (MSV) opened its doors in 1982, there was little being done to hold men accountable for violence against women or to engage men in working to end that violence. During the ensuing years, MSV’s methodology was carefully developed, evaluated, and refined. It is because of our rigorous approach to our work that MSV has been recognized as a national leader in engaging men to end violence against women. Our mission is to organize men to end male violence against women and girls through innovative trainings, programs and advocacy.

The following is a brief list of some of our accomplishments and impact:

  • Educated over 65,000 men about how to stop their abusive, violent behavior; and about 100,250 individuals in community based organizations about what they can do to help prevent domestic violence in their communities and beyond.
  • Provided consultation, keynotes and training to 2,500 government agencies, businesses, universities, and domestic violence agencies including: Emory University, the U.S. State Department, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the U.S. Department of Justice, the British Home Office, the Taiwan Government.
  • Provide expert analysis and commentary on domestic violence and sexual assault through media including CNN, Al Jazeera America, The New York Times, TV One, The Tom Joyner Morning Show, Atlanta’s local TV stations and The Atlanta Journal-Constitution.
  • Received numerous awards for helping to strengthen families and build safer communities for women and girls, including: The Atlanta Hawks’ Be Greater Atlanta Award; and a Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Community Service Award.
  • Recognized by the White House as leaders in the domestic violence prevention community. MSV’s executive director and associate director were invited to the White House to join President Obama and VP Biden in the launch and recognition of their administration’s initiatives to prevent violence against women and girls.
  • Authored peer review articles, book chapters, and Men At Work: Building Safe Communities, the only curriculum in our field that bridges the gap between intervention and prevention.
  • Provided training and consultation in Africa, Asia, Europe, Canada, the Caribbean, and 45 states in the U.S.
  • Selected by the U.S. Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women to be technical assistance providers for their inaugural Engaging Men Project.

Men Stopping Violence Interviewed on Peachtree TV

Greg Loughlin, MSV’s Assistant Director, made an appearance on Public Affairs on Peach to discuss the role of communities in ending male violence against women and girls. Watch the interview here.

Emory University Discussion on Sexual Violence

On Wednesday, April 12th from 7:00 to 8:30 p.m., Men Stopping Violence will be hosting a discussion about the normalization of sexual violence on college campuses. Ways to contribute to a safer college campus will also be discussed. This event is in partnership with Volunteer Emory.

It will be hosted in the Winship Ballroom on Emory University’s campus.

Strategies to Address Fathers Who Have Used Violence – January 2017

Men Stopping Violence will be presenting to judges from across Georgia on the issue of domestic violence and resources for fathers who have used violence. This presentation will be a part of the 2017 Winter Conference for Superior Court Judges.

The event will be held on Wednesday, January 18th, 2017 from 4:10-5:00 pm in Athens, Georgia. More details to come.

Safe Families, Safe Communities – October 18th

Men Stopping Violence (MSV) organizes men to create safer communities for women and girls. For 34 years, we’ve partnered with faith communities across metro Atlanta to help accomplish our mission. In this time, we’ve learned that many victims of domestic violence feel safest disclosing that violence to others in their faith community. In addition, many men also turn to their faith communities for support in ending their abuse of family members. “Safe Families, Safe Communities: Equipping Clergy to Stop Domestic Violence,” is based on the reality that faith communities can play a central role in ending domestic violence. This event is designed to build stronger connections between Men Stopping Violence and clergy across metro Atlanta. A stronger relationship provides opportunities for faith communities to access the services MSV offers to men including our 24-week Men’s Education Program. At this event, we’ll cover a basic overview of domestic violence, explain why discussing and addressing domestic violence within your congregation is important, share resources for survivors and batterers, and talk about opportunities for collaboration with Men Stopping Violence to engage men in your congregation and support intervention and prevention needs.

Note: This initial event is geared toward Christian clergy and lay leaders.  Leaders of all faiths are welcome to attend and future trainings will be geared towards other faith communities.

This event will be held on Tuesday, October 18th, 2016 from 6:30-8:30 pm at Oakhurst Presbyterian Church (118 2nd Ave, Decatur, GA 30030).

Please contact Lee Giordano with questions or to RSVP by October 11th.