The Mask You Live In – Screening and Discussion

hu-MAN Up, along with partners HollaBack Atlanta, One Billion Rising Atlanta and Men Stopping Violence present The Mask You Live In. This powerful documentary follows boys and young men as they struggle to stay true to themselves while negotiating America’s narrow definition of masculinity.

MATURE CONTENT: VIEWER DISCRETION ADVISED.

Media, peer group and even adult pressures encourage boys to disconnect from their emotions, devalue authentic friendships, objectify and degrade women and solve problems through conflict. These toxic gender stereotypes interconnect with race, class, and circumstance, creating a maze of identity issues. The film ultimately illustrates how we, as a society, can raise healthier boys and help men break free from the constraints of hypermasculinity, which we’ll further examine in a brief post-screening discussion.

Proceeds from the screening will benefit hosting organizations.

To purchase tickets, click here.

Men Stopping Violence Trains in Mauritius and Sechelles

Lee Giordano, Men Stopping Violence’s Director of Training, recently completed a training series in Mauritius and Seychelles. MSV was invited by the United States Embassy of Mauritius and Seychelles to share its approach to engaging men with professionals in the two countries through the United States State Department’s Speakers Program. Lee spent five days in Mauritius and three in Seychelles.

On Monday, August 31, 2015 Lee met with Ambassador Shari Villarosa, the current Ambassador to the Republic of Mauritius and the Republic of Seychelles. In this meeting, the Ambassador shared that the Embassy sees gender based violence as one of the most important issues that they can help address in both Mauritius and Seychelles. Following that conversation and with an added sense of importance, the action packed schedule began.

In five days in Mauritius Lee conducted full and half day training for local Non-Governmental Organizations, police officers, the Ministry of Gender Equality, and the Gender Based Violence Cell of the Municipal Council of Curepipe. Overall, Lee spoke with almost 300 people. Trainings covered a range of topics including Community Based Accountability, Men Stopping Violence’s Core Principles of Engaging Men, Tactics of Abuse and Control, and Interventions with Men Who Batter. The week concluded on a high point with a session of Because We Have Daughters with local fathers and daughters. Priya Beegun, Cultural Affairs Specialist at the Embassy in Mauritius, said that this session was the highlight of the trip so far and people have begun asking for more training on Because We Have Daughters following the session.

Seychelles held a similar schedule for Lee as did Mauritius. Over three days Lee spoke with over 200 people from Non-Governmental Organizations, the police, the military, healthcare workers, therapists, and the Ministry of Education covering similar topics as he did in Mauritius. The trip once again concluded with a moving session of Because We Have Daughters hosted by the National Council for Children and attended by local fathers and daughters. After the BWHD session in Seychelles, Ruby Pardiwalla, Director of the National Council for Children, shared, “As an observer, I found myself getting emotional and teary eyed listening to the fathers say that this is the first time they had taken time to listen to and understand where their daughters were coming from. I have bumped into a couple after the session and they are still talking about it and asking when we are having the next session and to remember to include them”.

Men Stopping Violence is currently pursuing an opportunity to return to Mauritius and Seychelles to conduct a more in-depth Because We Have Daughters training.

Because We Have Daughters Training – January 2016

January 29th – 30th, 2016 in Atlanta, Georgia

Men Stopping Violence has developed a comprehensive training on how to facilitate and administer the BWHD program.  This training is being offered to a wide range of agencies and organizations including faith communities and social service agencies.

By the end of the training participants will be able to:

  • Utilize the skills necessary to facilitate a BWHD program
  • Identify and address key issues in conducting the BWHD program
  • Summarize the seven core values of BWHD
  • Describe and implement the structure and process of a BWHD session
  • Create BWHD activities to be used in their local BWHD program

The training costs $250 and you will receive:

  • A detailed facilitation guide
  • A model BWHD session
  • An instructional DVD
  • A template to help design your own BWHD session

About Because We Have Daughters

Because We Have Daughters helps men: deepen their relationships with their daughters; connect with other dads around parenting issues; learn more about the obstacles girls and women face in our society; and acquire tools to challenge social and cultural norms that create unsafe situations and spaces for women and girls. This is all done through fun and engaging activities. BWHD is particularly designed for girls between the ages of 8 and 15 and their fathers.

Building Bridges, Making Connections: Coordinating a Community Response to Domestic Violence

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Men Stopping Violence will be participating in the Office of the DeKalb County Solicitor-General’s 5thannual community symposium entitled Building Bridges, Making Connections: Coordinating a Community Response to Domestic Violence. 

This half-day symposium and resource fair will be held on WednesdayOctober 21, 2015, from 8:00 AM until 12:30 PM at the Manuel Maloof Auditorium located at 1300 Commerce Drive, Decatur, Georgia.

Facilitation Tools for Addressing Sexual Violence as a Tactic of Control

September 29, 2015

Lee Giordano will be presenting a workshop entitled Facilitation Tools for Addressing Sexual Violence as a Tactic of Control at the 2015 Georgia Commission on Family Violence BIP Conference.

Description:
Sexual violence accompanies physical and psychological violence as tactics used by men referred to Family Violence Intervention Programs, but is often de-emphasized in comparison. A de-emphasis on sexual violence may be a result of facilitator discomfort discussing the issue or a lack of understanding about how sexual violence relates to other abusive tactics. In this workshop, Men Stopping Violence will share its definition of male sexual violence, explore tactics on the spectrum of sexual violence, and provide tools to help facilitate open, accountable discussions on sexual violence in Family Violence Intervention Programs.

Objectives:
By the end of the workshop, participants will be better able to:
1. Identify tactics of sexual violence used in intimate partner relationships.
2. Explore reproductive coercion as a tactic of psychological and sexual violence.
3. Implement facilitation strategies that lead to open discussion and accountability regarding tactics of sexual violence.

Speakers Bureau Orientation

September 22, 2015

Men Stopping Violence is excited to announce the creation of its Speakers Bureau. The goal of the Speakers Bureau is to develop a network of trainers who will share MSV’s approach and analysis with our community. Participation will build public speaking skills, workshop development skills, and knowledge about violence against women. Membership in the MSV Speakers Bureau will provide opportunities to educate metro Atlanta communities about MSV’s services and violence against women. Participants will also be provided pathways to facilitate Because We Have DaughtersTactics and Choices, Men at Work: Building Safe Communities, and the Men’s Awareness Program Presentation. All genders welcome.

For more information or to RSVP for the Orientation contact:
Lee Giordano
404-270-9894
lee@menstoppingviolence.org

Men Stopping Violence Speakers Bureau Orientation
Tuesday, September 22, 2015
6:30 – 8:00pm
@ MSV Office
2785 Lawrenceville Hwy. Suite 112
Decatur, GA 30033

Principles and Practices of an Intersectional Approach to Engaging Men in Preventing Male Violence Against Women

April 23, 2015 Ulester Douglas will present a workshop at the Virginia Sexual & Domestic Violence Action Alliance annual conference.

Workshop Description:
The issue of men’s role and responsibility in the women-lead movement to end violence against women remains thorny. One of the many tensions is the reality that men are both the primary perpetrators of violence against women as well as potential allies to women–This tension is especially evident when organizing to engage men in our prevention efforts. Inherent in these strains are issues of social locations such as race, sex, gender, sexual orientation, class, ability and other status. The goal of this workshop is to offer organizing principles and strategies for engaging men that are informed by these reinforcing identities.

Policy and Practice Implications of Using an Intersectional Framework to Engage Men in Preventing Male Violence Against Women.

April 22, 2015 Ulester Douglas will present a TED style talk on Policy and Practice Implications of Using an Intersectional Framework to Engage Men in Preventing Male Violence Against Women.

Description
Intersectionality as a theoretical and organizing framework has been around long before Kimberle Crenshaw coined the term in her ground breaking work of the late eighties and early nineties. It has been embraced as a major organizing tool by many progressive movements while critiqued by others as “methodologically murky.” Intersectionality is defined as the ways race, class, gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, ability, status and other markers of difference intersect to inform individual realities and lived experiences. The goal of this presentation is to highlight some of the policy and practice implications of using this framework to engage men in preventing male violence against women.

Tools for Transformation – TCFV’s 12th annual BIPP Conference

April 17th – April 18th, 2015
Men Stopping Violence will be well represented at this year’s Tools For Transformation conference hosted by the Texas Council on Family Violence. Lee Giordano will be presenting two workshops and Dick Bathrick will be a keynote speaker and present a workshop as well. Click here for details.

Intersectionality: An Essential Framework for Addressing Male Intimate Partner Violence Against Women

April 15, 2015 Ulester Douglas will present Intersectionality: An Essential Framework for Addressing Male Intimate Partner Violence Against Women at the Advancing the Narrative: Inspiring the Future Conference. Click here for conference details and see below for a description of the workshop.

Workshop Description:
One of the critiques of programs for men who batter women is that most of them lack analysis and practices that are responsive to marginalized men and their communities. Specifically, these programs are said to be structured to align with the needs of White middle class men and the criminal justice system. The goal of this session is to discuss why programs for men who abuse women must function at the intersection of race, class, gender, sexual orientation, etc. if their goal is safety for women and their children.

Goals:
1. Discuss the core tenets of Interesctionality.
2. Examine the resistance to an Intersectionality Framework in addressing male intimate partner violence against women.
3. Discuss the implications of employing an Intersectional approach to preventing male intimate partner violence against women.